She is Gone

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I don’t remember how we met.

But, we had been friends for many years.

She’d  listened to a few of my “He just broke up with me” stories…

And I’d done the same for her.

We’d hung out together when there was no one else around.

Our apartments were two floors apart.

On some Friday nights, we would be almost penniless.
Neither of us would have enough money to buy a six pack.
We’d dump our purses, gather what little change we had, and drive to the Beer Store to purchase a quart to cry over.

For entertainment:

We opened the curtains to the sliding glass door, cranked up the music, and danced with our reflections while the radio played full blast.
Our neighbors would knock on the ceiling to ask us to “Turn it down!”

When her son was born, He would not acknowledge him…
But, I did.
I was there to see his birth.

I saw him step on his first school bus.

I watched him graduate high school.

Our lives moved in different directions.

We lost track of time and years.
We missed each other.

Her son called today to tell me the news.
“She is Gone.”

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BLACKBIRD – THE BEATLES

Blackbird singing in the dead of night

Take these broken wings and learn to fly

All your life

You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Blackbird singing in the dead of night

Take these sunken eyes and learn to see

All your life

You were only waiting for this moment to be free

Blackbird fly, Blackbird fly

Into the light of the dark black night.

Blackbird singing in the dead of night

Take these broken wings and learn to fly

All your life

You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Blackbird fly, Blackbird fly

Into the light of the dark black night.

All your life

You were only waiting for this moment to arise

You were only waiting for this moment to arise

You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Blackbird” is a Beatles song from the double-disc album The Beatles (also known as the White Album). Blackbird was written by Paul McCartney, though credited to Lennon–McCartney.

The Penalty Box

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This is Yet Another Testament as to why I am no longer Married (and probably Never shall be Again):

Several times over the weekend I heard these words come out of Grown Men’s mouths:

“My Wife (or Girlfriend) Won’t Let Me: ______.”

At issue, was something petty and ridiculous stemming from the Wife’s (or Girlfriend’s) own INSECURITY about herself.

I am both pained and saddened by this for three reasons:

#1) The fact that I know so many men who allow themselves to Openly and Freely become Emasculated by the women whom they Love.

#2) The fact that there are so women who are insecure in their ability to maintain a Loving relationship with their spouse (or boyfriend) WITHOUT placing “handcuffs” on them or threatening them with crazy-ness.

#3) The fact that I find I have NO Respect for these people – Husband (or Wife) / Boyfriend (or Girlfriend).

This especially makes me sad, because sometimes I see my own friends transform from independent, self-sufficient human beings into Troubled and Sickly puppies (or kittens) whom can not see for themselves what they have become.

I can not “help” them or “rescue” them in any way.

It’s as though they have lost their own individuality and all sense of themselves in their relationship.

I guess this is the kind of Love that I shall never experience or know.

P.S.  It goes BOTH ways… There are plenty of Husbands (or Boyfriends) who:

“…Won’t let their Wives (or Girlfriends): _______.”

Either way, these people are happy living in their Penalty Boxes.

Uh, errr,  I mean… Relationships.  Or at least they “say” they are.

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Trouble is the debut album by Maine singer-songwriter Ray LaMontagne. It was released on September 14, 2004 in the United States, and on September 20, 2004 in the United Kingdom. Although the album was released in 2004, the song didn’t enter the top five of the UK charts until August 2006. The album was produced by Ethan Johns, released on RCA Records, marketed by BMG and distributed by Stone Dwarf Records.

“Trouble” was featured in the second season of the American television show Rescue Me.

Trouble…
Trouble, trouble, trouble, trouble
Trouble been doggin’ my soul since the day I was born
Worry…
Worry, worry, worry, worry
Worry just will not seem to leave my mind alone
We’ll I’ve been…
Saved by a woman
I’ve been…
Saved by a woman
I’ve been…
Saved by a woman
She won’t let me go
She won’t let me go now
She won’t let me go
She won’t let me go now
Trouble…
Oh, trouble, trouble, trouble, trouble
Feels like every time I get back on my feet 
She come around and knock me down again
Worry…
Oh, worry, worry, worry, worry
Sometimes I swear it feels like this worry is my only friend
We’ll I’ve been saved…
By a woman
I’ve been saved…
By a woman
I’ve been saved…
By a woman
She won’t let me go
She won’t let me go now
She won’t let me go
She won’t let me go now
Oh…, Ahhhh….
Ohhhh
She good to me now
She gave me love and affection
She good tell me now
She gave me love and affection
I Said I love her 
Yes I love her
I said I love her
I said I love…
She good to me now
She’s good to me
She’s good to me