She’d listened to a few of my “He just broke up with me” stories…
And I’d done the same for her.
We’d hung out together when there was no one else around.
Our apartments were two floors apart.
On some Friday nights, we would be almost penniless.
Neither of us would have enough money to buy a six pack.
We’d dump our purses, gather what little change we had, and drive to the Beer Store to purchase a quart to cry over.
For entertainment:
We opened the curtains to the sliding glass door, cranked up the music, and danced with our reflections while the radio played full blast.
Our neighbors would knock on the ceiling to ask us to “Turn it down!”
When her son was born, He would not acknowledge him…
But, I did.
I was there to see his birth.
I saw him step on his first school bus.
I watched him graduate high school.
Our lives moved in different directions.
We lost track of time and years.
We missed each other.
Her son called today to tell me the news.
“She is Gone.”
This is Yet Another Testament as to why I am no longer Married (and probably Never shall be Again):
Several times over the weekend I heard these words come out of Grown Men’s mouths:
“My Wife (or Girlfriend) Won’t Let Me: ______.”
At issue, was something petty and ridiculous stemming from the Wife’s (or Girlfriend’s) own INSECURITY about herself.
I am both pained and saddened by this for three reasons:
#1) The fact that I know so many men who allow themselves to Openly and Freely become Emasculated by the women whom they Love.
#2) The fact that there are so women who are insecure in their ability to maintain a Loving relationship with their spouse (or boyfriend) WITHOUT placing “handcuffs” on them or threatening them with crazy-ness.
#3) The fact that I find I have NO Respect for these people – Husband (or Wife) / Boyfriend (or Girlfriend).
This especially makes me sad, because sometimes I see my own friends transform from independent, self-sufficient human beings into Troubled and Sickly puppies (or kittens) whom can not see for themselves what they have become.
I can not “help” them or “rescue” them in any way.
It’s as though they have lost their own individuality and all sense of themselves in their relationship.
I guess this is the kind of Love that I shall never experience or know.
P.S. It goes BOTH ways… There are plenty of Husbands (or Boyfriends) who:
“…Won’t let their Wives (or Girlfriends): _______.”
Either way, these people are happy living in their Penalty Boxes.
Uh, errr, I mean… Relationships. Or at least they “say” they are.
Trouble is the debut album by Mainesinger-songwriterRay LaMontagne. It was released on September 14, 2004 in the United States, and on September 20, 2004 in the United Kingdom. Although the album was released in 2004, the song didn’t enter the top five of the UK charts until August 2006. The album was produced by Ethan Johns, released on RCA Records, marketed by BMG and distributed by Stone Dwarf Records.
“Trouble” was featured in the second season of the American television show Rescue Me.
Trouble… Trouble, trouble, trouble, trouble Trouble been doggin’ my soul since the day I was born Worry… Worry, worry, worry, worry Worry just will not seem to leave my mind alone We’ll I’ve been… Saved by a woman I’ve been… Saved by a woman I’ve been… Saved by a woman She won’t let me go She won’t let me go now She won’t let me go She won’t let me go now Trouble… Oh, trouble, trouble, trouble, trouble Feels like every time I get back on my feet She come around and knock me down again Worry… Oh, worry, worry, worry, worry Sometimes I swear it feels like this worry is my only friend We’ll I’ve been saved… By a woman I’ve been saved… By a woman I’ve been saved… By a woman She won’t let me go She won’t let me go now She won’t let me go She won’t let me go now Oh…, Ahhhh…. Ohhhh She good to me now She gave me love and affection She good tell me now She gave me love and affection I Said I love her Yes I love her I said I love her I said I love… She good to me now She’s good to me She’s good to me
When called for Jury Duty, most of you complain and contemplate all the reasons why you can’t and don’t want to serve…
This past Spring, I was called for duty and ended up serving a 2-Month Stint as Juror #3 {the Secretary} on the Fulton County Georgia Grand Jury.
At first, I wasn’t happy about having to serve, but after a week I settled into it and it gave me a whole new perspective on how our Country’s Court System works.
Just so you know:
Fulton County Grand Jury Duty service commitment = 2 days per week for 2 Months, at $25 per day.
My term was every Tuesday and Friday from 8:30am – 5:00pm, during the months of March & April.
For what it’s worth, I have no comment on The State of Florida vs. George Zimmerman Case.
And if I did, I was not a Juror, or an Attorney, nor was I the Judge on the case – so what does my opinion matter?
Argue amongst yourselves.
… But, PLEASE hear me when I say this:
The next time you get called for Jury Duty, Look at it as an Important Opportunity to be a part of YOUR government in action.
The song was inspired by an event at the dawn of the psychedelic era in November 1966, the year during which Buffalo Springfield started playing as the house band at the Whisky a Go Go on the Sunset Strip in Los Angeles. According to the Los Angeles Times,[3] annoyed residents and business owners in the district had encouraged the passage of strict (10:00 p.m.) curfew and loitering laws to reduce the traffic congestion resulting from crowds of young club patrons. This was subsequently perceived by young, local rock and roll music fans as an infringement on their civil rights, and on Saturday, November 12, 1966, fliers were distributed along the Strip inviting people to demonstrate later that day.
Hours before the protest one of L.A’s rock ‘n’ roll radio stations announced there would be a rally at Pandora’s Box, a club at the corner of Sunset Boulevard and Crescent Heights, and cautioned people to tread carefully.[3] The Times reported that as many as 1,000 youthful demonstrators, including such celebrities as Jack Nicholson and Peter Fonda (who was afterward handcuffed by police), erupted in protest against the perceived repressive enforcement of these recently invoked curfew laws.
Though often mistaken for an anti-war song, it was this first of the “Sunset Strip riots” which inspired then Buffalo Springfield band member Stephen Stills to write “For What It’s Worth”, recorded about three weeks after on December 5, 1966.
The song quickly became a well-known protest song. While it has come to symbolize worldwide turbulence and confrontational feelings arising from events during the 1960s (particularly the Vietnam War), Stills recounts writing the song in reaction to escalating unrest between law enforcement and young club-goers on the Sunset Strip in Los Angeles County, California. The song’s title appears nowhere in its lyrics; it is more easily remembered by the first line of chorus: “Stop, children, what’s that sound?”
Stills said in an interview that the name of the song came about when he presented it to the record company executive Ahmet Ertegun who signed Buffalo Springfield to the Atlantic Records-owned ATCO label. He said: “I have this song here, for what it’s worth, if you want it.” Another producer, Charlie Greene, claims that Stills first said the above sentence to him, but credits Ahmet Ertegun with subtitling the single “Stop, Hey What’s That Sound” so that the song would be more easily recognized.
In 2006, when interviewed on Tom Kent‘s radio show “Into the ’70s”, Stephen Stills pointed out that many people think “For What It’s Worth” is about the Kent State Shootings (1970), despite predating that event by over three years. Neil Young, Stills’ bandmate in both Buffalo Springfield and Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young, would later write Ohio, which really is about Kent State.
The song was played (without Neil Young‘s presence) at Buffalo Springfield’s induction to the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame.
Are you beginning 2013 with a New Year’s Resolution?
Tradition calls us to choose “something” and then “stick” to resolving to make good on our promise for the New Year.
We often choose something so difficult that our likelihood of follow through is nonexistent. Either we lack the will power or we have such little interest in making a change in our life that we end up tossing our resolution aside without regard for accomplishment or consequence.
What do you resolve to do in 2013?
Is it a personal or mental achievement?
Is it a physical goal?
Do you have a goal for a Family Relationship or Personal Friendship?
RESOLVE:
To come to a determination; make up one’s mind; determine (often followed by on or upon): to resolve on a plan of action.
Whatever your resolution might be, make certain that it is a resolution for YOU. Choose something that will be beneficial To You and For You.
In my opinion, a true resolution should not be about “Keeping up with the Joneses” – it should be about bettering yourself and doing something to improve your life’s journey.
Think of something that YOU want.
Be true to your own heart and choose something that will make YOU happy – First and Foremost.
Dig deep. Search your soul and be certain that whatever you choose is for your own well being.
Think about the sacrifice that you may have to make of yourself in order to make your New Year’s Resolution a reality.
Again, be true to yourself.
Trust me: Next year, I’m not going to remember what your New Year’s Resolution was… Honestly, by February, I may barely remember my own resolution.
Often, we think that by spouting these grand resolutions, we will impress others and make ourselves look good…
That is a simple mistake to make. We live in a society where judging ourselves by the accomplishments of others is the norm.
What we fail to realize is that by simply observing others, we have no idea what struggles they may be experiencing or exactly what their life is truly like.
How many times have we found ourselves in a struggle to please someone only to find that we are making our own selves miserable and unhappy?
What comes easy for me – may not be so easy for you.
Example: It would be silly for us to choose the same weight loss goal as our New Year’s Resolution – Especially, knowing that our body types are completely different. Besides that, there is always a “little something extra” that we may not know about.
Approval from others is only natural. We want to be liked and we want to be loved, but should we allow a compromise of our own well being overshadow the love that we have for ourselves?
Sometimes it’s okay to be a little Selfish!
No one ever said that we shouldn’t enjoy our lives by doing what makes us happy. So, “do” you! That way, each step we take toward a new resolution will give us joy.
We will find true happiness in knowing that we’ve done it all for ourselves.
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