This is Yet Another Testament as to why I am no longer Married (and probably Never shall be Again):

Several times over the weekend I heard these words come out of Grown Men’s mouths:

“My Wife (or Girlfriend) Won’t Let Me: ______.”

At issue, was something petty and ridiculous stemming from the Wife’s (or Girlfriend’s) own INSECURITY about herself.

I am both pained and saddened by this for three reasons:

#1) The fact that I know so many men who allow themselves to Openly and Freely become Emasculated by the women whom they Love.

#2) The fact that there are so women who are insecure in their ability to maintain a Loving relationship with their spouse (or boyfriend) WITHOUT placing “handcuffs” on them or threatening them with crazy-ness.

#3) The fact that I find I have NO Respect for these people – Husband (or Wife) / Boyfriend (or Girlfriend).

This especially makes me sad, because sometimes I see my own friends transform from independent, self-sufficient human beings into Troubled and Sickly puppies (or kittens) whom can not see for themselves what they have become.

I can not “help” them or “rescue” them in any way.

It’s as though they have lost their own individuality and all sense of themselves in their relationship.

I guess this is the kind of Love that I shall never experience or know.

P.S.  It goes BOTH ways… There are plenty of Husbands (or Boyfriends) who:

“…Won’t let their Wives (or Girlfriends): _______.”

Either way, these people are happy living in their Penalty Boxes.

Uh, errr,  I mean… Relationships.  Or at least they “say” they are.

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Trouble is the debut album by Maine singer-songwriter Ray LaMontagne. It was released on September 14, 2004 in the United States, and on September 20, 2004 in the United Kingdom. Although the album was released in 2004, the song didn’t enter the top five of the UK charts until August 2006. The album was produced by Ethan Johns, released on RCA Records, marketed by BMG and distributed by Stone Dwarf Records.

“Trouble” was featured in the second season of the American television show Rescue Me.

Trouble…
Trouble, trouble, trouble, trouble
Trouble been doggin’ my soul since the day I was born
Worry…
Worry, worry, worry, worry
Worry just will not seem to leave my mind alone
We’ll I’ve been…
Saved by a woman
I’ve been…
Saved by a woman
I’ve been…
Saved by a woman
She won’t let me go
She won’t let me go now
She won’t let me go
She won’t let me go now
Trouble…
Oh, trouble, trouble, trouble, trouble
Feels like every time I get back on my feet 
She come around and knock me down again
Worry…
Oh, worry, worry, worry, worry
Sometimes I swear it feels like this worry is my only friend
We’ll I’ve been saved…
By a woman
I’ve been saved…
By a woman
I’ve been saved…
By a woman
She won’t let me go
She won’t let me go now
She won’t let me go
She won’t let me go now
Oh…, Ahhhh….
Ohhhh
She good to me now
She gave me love and affection
She good tell me now
She gave me love and affection
I Said I love her 
Yes I love her
I said I love her
I said I love…
She good to me now
She’s good to me
She’s good to me